Three weeks ago, I took a week of paid vacation and traveled home to spend time with family. I didn’t realize how refreshing spending time with my loved ones could be, and I went back to work feeling refreshed and renewed.

In going home, my family taught me a few lessons that I had been missing since I’d been so busy with my own day to day life and I thought I should share them here.

My grandfather taught me that it isn’t always about what you know, but who you know and that kindness goes an awfully long way. People will always remember your generosity.

My grandmother showed me that no matter how far you go, you will find your way back to those you love. No amount of miles can keep the family apart. And when it’s time to get back to those who matter, you’ll know exactly when it’s time to go.

My sister taught me not to let other people steal your joy. If you know you’ve done the right thing, stick by that and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. Misery just loves company.

My mom showed me how to reflect on situations without allowing old feelings to cloud my vision of the future. It’s okay to be nostalgic, but when it’s time to put certain situations to rest, let them be. She also showed me that it’s never too late for a fresh start.

My dad showed me that there’s a time and place for fun and that even when we think we have things figured out, we will be too frivolous and make mistakes. It is important not to dwell on these mistakes, but focus on how to learn from them and move forward.

My maternal grandfather showed me the importance of taking (and keeping) pictures. Even if you don’t think you look the best, take the picture. When the memory starts to fade and people pass on or move out of your life, you’ll still have the photograph to look back on.

My younger brother has taught me that there’s always someone watching and looking up to you. Aim to set a good example.

My dog showed me how important it is to live in the moment. The things that may seem frustrating and monumental as they’re happening really aren’t a big deal and you shouldn’t let muddy paws sour your whole mood when your intentions were to play and have fun.

All in all, I needed this trip. I was in my own head way too much and having the perspectives of others helped me get out of a negative headspace. I am so grateful that I have this support system.

To my family, I’d just like to say thank you — for allowing me to unapologetically be myself, for allowing me to spread my wings, but most importantly, for helping me find my way back when I am lost. I love y’all.